Inter caste love marriages

inter caste love marriages

Inter caste love marriages is one of biggest problem in today’s life. Inter caste marriages are mostly happens because of love. When you love someone and decide to marry , you first have to answer people to which caste or religion he/she belongs? Inter-caste marriages are not easily accepted in our family and society.Parents think our society will not accept this and not even us.Whole community will break  any relation with the family where inter caste marriage had taken place.They believe that the couple will not be able to settle down and religiously follow each other’s culture ,the children born out of the inter-caste marriage will not be perfect.

These societies need some change of views so that young hearts  live happily.Though we can see inter caste marriages today , but mostly it is in city culture.The rural area of the country still not accepted inter caste love marriages.

Government should come forward to make such policies and rules which can encourage marriage between the members of two different castes. There should be some type of appreciation from the government so that more inter caste marriages can take place.

Many State governments in India started proving special incentives for inter caste marriage.

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Though government has taken many steps to improve the situation but still there is a great need to implement more measures to make the situation happier.

 

 

25 thoughts on “Inter caste love marriages

  1. @vinay kumar : After convincing around one and half year our parents became positive (not 100% but ok). Now completed 2 years to our inter caste marriage, all things are going good and parents are also happy.
    So try to convince them up to last moment.

  2. @Vinay, @Sandeep, I would like share my own experience with you guys.

    I was trying to convince my parents more than 2 years, and finally they agreed to accept my GF as their daughter-in-law. Let me tell you how I approached to all this…

    First I convinced my Sister and my Jiju, (fortunately my Jiju is very jolly person), I was bit reluctant to tell them about my affair, but with so much courage when I explained my situations they both were ready to tie our knot. :)

    He also told me that he will try to convince my father. ( my suggestion is “Convince people around you, who can at least convey your thoughts to your parents, in positive way” and keep your thoughts positive.)

    I think my father was in fear of our relatives and his friends. He or your mother will definitely think about below questions…….

    What relatives will think?
    How should I go in front of them if my son did “inter caste marriage”?
    Will that girl is suitable for my son?
    Is her character is good?
    How will her family reacts to this? etc. etc…..

    But my friend don’t worry “If you really love with each other….don’t worry “God is with you”….But keep in mind if you are only attracted to each other please think again think twice…..

    Marriage is not just a license to sleep with each other…there is lot more behind that knot and you should keep that in your mind always.

    Thank you,
    Sudeep K.

    1. I am facing the same problem. But we r sufferfrom hard situation. My bf’s family is doing emotional things with him and his grandfather had heartache also because of our love relation.

      His family is not going to be ready.

      Me n my bf r school friends. And his family is knowing me from many years still they are not ready for inter caste marriage.

      Really my bf is suffering from worst condition. His famil’s youngster also not ready for inter caste marriage. Plz pray for us.

  3. my this comment to all coward and the boys who easily fell in love with other caste girls but dont have gut to fight for their own love….

    What you are doing now is not fair.You are not giving any importance to your gal’s feelings.How can you avoid a gal whom you loved for past 4 years at this stage of your life where you need to take serious decisions?If you lack the courage to introduce the matter before your parents,then i can say you are a coward.If you are that much concerned about your parents,you could have think it earlier before you started your love.At least that gal is saved from you.But you gave her all hope,she loved you sincerly as her man and now you want your parents only.

    I am not making you sad.I know that parents are important and they are like God.But this is not at a good solution.You are keeping things hidden from everyone.You are the only son of your parents – that means their only asset for future.So cant they understand your feelings towards that gal?Initially they may be against.But you can convince them slowly.How can you close your true affair even without a single try?Go man,get ready to take some risk for your loved one.Pls dont ignore her.Its like killing her.She made her family ready for you,its your turn now.I hope things will be fine at last.

  4. Inter caste marriage should be encourage..bcoz if people take this step then castesim and religion based discrimination should be stop itself..we all are human being..God never created any caste and religion..even God dnt has any caste and religion…did you know that God belong to which caste and religion..then keep shut your mouth about this stupid varan system and caste system okh.. In ancient times, caste system had the seeds of liberalism. It provided the right and opportunity to get to the top from the humblest origin and earn the respect of the whole society. For example, Vashishtha, the principal of the conservative school of Brahmanism, was the son of Uravshi, a prostitute. Vishwamitra, the maker of the very Gayatri Mantra, the quintessence of the Vedic Brahmanism, was a Kshatriya. Aitreya, after whom the sacramental part of Rig-Veda is named as Aitreya Brahamana, was the son from a non-Aryan wife of a Brahman sage. Vyasa of Mahabharata fame was the son of a fish-woman and he was not ashamed of his origin. Balmiki, an untouchable according to present standards, the original author of Ramayana, is highly respected all over India..And only you can make it good or bad this inter caste marriage. Depends upon how much importance u give to these meaningless and stupid values. And how much importance u give to other people who value these meaningless things. U have to see how much u urself r attached to other people opinions. And since u r asking for opinion, it means u r attached to these meaningless things.

  5. What steps can be taken to convince the people to accept the inter-caste marriages trend?
    It is the responsibility of the younger generation to make their elders realize that the rigid caste system is morbid and has a dark future ahead. The youngsters can take various steps on their part to demolish this system:
    • The girl or boy should be introduced as a friend to the family and be allowed to earn their love and respect
    • The qualities of the person you love should be highlighted in front of the family members
    • Try and learn the customs of each other’s caste. This will enable you to earn the love of the family members
    • Try and show your family members how this kind of systems are obstructing the progress of the nation

  6. All Hindu communities in the country follow the varnashram system of Aryans and have divided the society in four castes – Kshatryas, Brahmins, Vaishyas and Shudras. Sindhis do not have such division in their society. They never followed a rigid caste system. That is why Sindhis are considered to be only businessmen. All members of the society inter-mingle with one another without any consideration of four castes of Aryans. There are no untouchables in Sindhis…..These religion and caste set up by mad and stupid people to control others not by god…who are still mentally sick they are following this castesim blindly..i must say be like all sindhi..leave these castesim and make only one hindu religion like sindhi religion dont create any caste,community and class…bcs its only give you tension and create problems for your own self..

  7. who divided society in caste line……only stupid and mentally sick hindu..first change your thinking that all people as a human being so the system ll be change itself understood..be like sindhi religion, make one religion and killed the bloody varan system n caste system…you ll b more happiest person in this world if you all mad hindu change ur narrow minded thinking about these caste n class…Because “I believe in recognizing every human being as a human being–neither white, black, brown, or red; and when you are dealing with humanity as a family there’s no question of integration or intermarriage. It’s just one human being marrying another human being or one human being living around and with another human being.”

  8. The brahmin community has been one of the dirty communities which has planned strategically to fool people in the name of god by generating the highest donations in the temple, doing business to fool and loot money in the name of puja, death, marriage, new home… For any occasion, there’s one puja. They charge very high prices and take away all the items after the puja. They have created prostitution in the name of devadasis. They suppress jobs and employment and welfare and equality are destroyed. they have destroyed the Indian medical system. They have killed Indian medical science like siddha vaidhyam and created ayurveda and carnatic music by destroying dravidian music. Even today they have the temples under their control. They say they don’t like untouchables, but they have always been sexually harassing low caste women.

  9. Whole world think that India has many castes which are main reason of discrimination of people but its very very big misconception of caste system spread around the world to defame culture of India because it was the biggest systematically designed system for people from thousands of years. Now let me tell you what is meaning of varna and caste system in India and how its was started. In Ancient India there were two great saints, one was saint Bhrigu and other was saint Bhardwaj. They met to discuss how to structure a stable society for human being to live proper life, First they recognized the four sources which are:
    1. Knowledge 2. Weapons 3. Wealth 4. Land
    They decided to make system where nobody has more than one of that. These should not be in one hand, not even two should be in one hand. So those who has knowledge will not have wealth, will not have weapons and will not have lands. Those who will have weapons will rule the country but they will not make policy. They need to go to people having knowledge to seek their permission and advice. Those who are having wealth, their social status will be decided by the how much philanthropy they do not by their wealth. Those who has lands have to produce for the society. In fact none of these four category or “varna” was based on by birth.

  10. Hindu (body) four community: brahmin (head) kshatriya (arm) vaishya (belly) shudra (feet) All these four community called as hindu. We all are parts of one body. Without each part our body is not complete. If we lost one part of our body then we become handicap. The human body is the entire structure of a human being. Human Body is considered so loving that God even wants to have it. Spiritual Yogis have found that after going through the 84 millions species this souls get the most dignified human body. So it is the last step to explore the God or to get the view of almighty father god. We know that the soul never dies it takes birth again and again just like as we take new clothes to wear the soul as it takes new body and it is an infinite process. But the body what we get in next birth depend on our karma that thas been cited in Gita by Lord Krishna to Arjuna. We all here to perform our duties. Our action makes our destiny and nothing else. The result is in the hand of supreme power. Karma is the seed of plant and if the seed is genuine it must be fruitful.

  11. Many a time, man has taken birth in high caste and low caste; but this does not make him great or lowHaving been born in high caste man thinks himself to be great and being born in low caste thinks himself to be low and pitiable; both of these states of mind are wrong because many times man has been born in high and low castes. Hence, one should not be proud of having been born in high caste and not feel low if born in low caste family.
    Greatness has nothing to do with high caste. Man becomes great because of his noble work, exemplary character and becomes loathsome because of his immorality and evil conduct. Thus, it is his conduct only that decides his greatness or lowliness. Who does not know that high family born Ravana, Kansa, Duryodhana and others are censurable; whereas Metarya muni, Harikeshi muni and others, though born in low family, are venerable.
    Then, what is the importance of high or low caste?

  12. God doesn’t need Brahmin priest, god isn’t so narrow minded. god accept everyone. actually Brahmin priest needs god to make money.

    All human-beings are equal in the eyes of God.The human-beings have only created the caste system.There are good and bad people in both high caste as well as low caste.
    Ultimately,what matters to God is, whether one is a good person or striving to become one, or not.

  13. One who thinks himself to be of a high caste is actually low. While one who thinks himself/herself to be of low caste is said to be high caste. As per the scriptures, people are known by their nature and the quality of work they perform

  14. We always talk about religion and castesim but in reality there is no any caste and religion. We all are same our blood are same.then why we believe in discrimination. God never created any caste they made simple human being.. Mentally sick people take the path of fundamentalism and spread casteism and communism. They suffer from inferiority complex and divide the society into “we” and “they”. They (belonging either to higher or lower ranked caste) have a fear in their heart that if they do not get a higher place for themselves in society, “other” people are going to exploit them and going to put them down.They don’t have believe on themselves and their own work. They have doubt own their capability. People with negative mindset suffer from inferiority complex and divide society into compartments like higher castes or lower castes.and can’t tolerate “others” progress or well-being. They cannot work hard and cannot tolerate anybody else’s achievements. These are the people with negative mindset who believe in ranking some belonging to higher castes and/or some to lower castes. They are coward and they are unable to protect themselves…

  15. Hindu religion devided into four community….but again I m saying to all stupid people who living in india..caste and community only created by mentally sick people and who follow them they have something problem in their mind..four community name are Brahmin,kshatriya,vaishya,shurda…and its surprising we all India dnt know the exactly meaning of these four words..let me explain to you..brahmin means not that who born in high class..koi janam se uncha or nicha nhi hota hai.brahmin mean jo god ko janta hai usko apne samne dekha ho jisse brahma ka pata ho or apne acche karam se jana jaye na ki apni jaat se..agr Brahmin hone pr insaan ke karam gandhe hai toh who insaan ashudh mana jata hai who pavitr aatma nhi hoti hai…Kshatriya ka matlb hota hai weh yodha jo mantvta ki raksha hetu apne angg angg ko katva de..samks praniyon ki raksha ke liye apni jaan kurbaan kr de or apne karam pr ghamand na dikhaye..Vaishya who hote hai jo apne kaam mein emaan dikhaye koi chori chakari na kre..apne kaam ko galat tareeqe se na kre..emaan ki kamai ko khaye haraam ki kamai ko haath na lagaye..Shudra ka matlb hota hai shudh or pavitr aatma….jis bande ke ander koi moh, maya, krodh or ahnkaar tak nhi hai jiska aacharn shudh ho or karam shudh ho wohi sacha shudra hai..jo apne karam par purn vishwaas rake…jiske karam ache nhi man mein ahnkaar hai who shudra nhi mana ja sakta hai..agr tum log shudra ko pero ka sathaan dete ko toh or unhe neecha mante ho toh kanjke pujna bandh kr do unke peron (feet) ko dohna unki puja krna bandh kr do..kisi devi devta ke mandir ja kr natmastak na ho or apne mata pita ke peron ko choo ke ashiwadh lena bandh kr do

    1. @Cutie but this caste system was important in those days. There were specific work assigned to each community. But now a days I don’t think we should continue this system. But I am totally disagree with your last sentense.

      “Mata Pita ka aashirwad lena band kar do”…Areyyy what is this, they are your actual god. Don’t you know about Ganeshji and Kartikswami’s story about Pradikshina?

      If you can try wholeheartedly and respect your MOM and DAD you will be successful in your entire life. No one will beat you, your confidence will boost like nothing. Try it once and let me know. You will surely share your name every where no need to use nickname like “Cutie” 😛

  16. insaan apne guno se upar uthta hai unche staan par baith jane se nahi….
    A man is great by his deeds not by birth….

  17. sab jan janmein eik beech (seed) se, sabki mitti ek.
    mann mein duvidha padd gai ho gaye roop aaneik..

    unche kul ( high caste) ke karan tu duniya bhul raha hai.
    jab tan (body) mitti ho jaye tab kul ka hoga kya..

    kehat kabir na garav ( proud) kar na kisi ki hasi uda.
    abhi teri bhi naiya (boat) samudra ( sea) mein jane ke ho jaye..

    jo tu sacha baniya sabse ek sa bol.
    unch neech ka bhedh ( discrimination) chod ek barabar tol..

  18. A successful marriage is not dependent on same caste and religion. It depends on mutual understanding. Today, there are examples where two people from totally different background come together and spend their entire life happy with each other.

    1. Correct @Rajat but problem is our society especially our parents, who will tell them that girl who will be coming to their home will make their kid’s life.

      We should find out a way or we should educate our parents in some or the other way to accept other caste as a family member.

      What you think ?

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